Asking for help can be suprisingly hard!

Asking for help can be surprisingly hard, even when it's only for some minor difficulty. Doing so is an admittance that you aren't perfect, which can lead to feelings of weakness or inadequacy. Many of life's stumbling blocks can't be tackled alone.

Whether you're looking for a little assistance with a minor situation or seeking treatment for a serious disease, asking for help is the first step towards positive progress.

While it sounds simple, it can truly be difficult to swallow your pride and accept that you can’t solve this problem on your own. 

Most people may be surprised by the willingness of others to help you.  I’ve been receiving surprise phone calls all week long!  I’m truly blessed with the best friends in the world.  

I know in my heart that you all want me to be in attendance for the 70^th birthday bash but it is financially and physically impossible at this time.  I love all of you for offering your help with the airfare.  I’m so touched that you care.  Airfares for the month of June are ridiculously high.

To the special people and you all know who you are; who have extended your willingness to help me deserves my thanks. I thank you from the bottom of my heart. 

I was reminded that asking for help is not a reason to feel weak, inadequate, or feeling stupid.  Remember, seeking help when you need it is a sign of strength, not of weakness.  It’s easy to deny you have a problem.  It’s hard to put aside your pride in an effort to fix it.  I think everyone feels bashful or embarrassed.

I was reminded that it’s not a big deal!  No one’s perfect-everyone needs help at some point in time. 

My pride is the cardinal sin when seeking help.  When I ask for help, I have to admit that I can’t do something on my own.  Yet, when I was young, I was able to raise two children all by myself without any financial help from their father. I had youth and energy on my side then.  I got so tired of taking the father of my children to court for non-support (11 times) so I tackled it alone.

Everyone’s time is precious, the fact that they gave me some of theirs shows that they’re compassionate and care about me.  I need to find my way back home!   It’s complicated which steps to take first when you are alone.  I’m searching for the right steps to take in order for me to get back where I belong.  I’ve filled out applications to four low income senior housing facilities but they all have waiting lists and the last update was 5-7 years!  Ouch!

So, if anyone has connections out there, I’d surely appreciate your help!  I still would have to sell my condo here in Boca Raton.  I get nervous of the process of how long it will take to sell and how long it will take to get me back home.  If I sell too fast and too soon, a senior facility may be not available, then it would force me to pay a super high rent somewhere and that would not be good.  I truly don’t know what to do first.  Living with chronic pain is difficult enough right now and blurs my vision of the near future.

I currently have applications in:  The Satter House, Admiral Hill, and the place in Saugus off of Rte one that the name escapes me right now.  The concern I have with all of them as they all allow small pets and I’m high allergic to cats.  Cat dander can travel from one apartment to another.  Long haired dogs are not good for me either.  So many dilemmas to think about and then I end up with a headache trying to come up with a solution.

Also, scaling down to 425 square feet apartment opposed to a two bedroom/two bath and 1200 square feet surely would be an adjustment.  Parting with my prize possessions that there certainly would be no room for in such a small unit would hurt at first I guess.  I have to focus on the most important thing is that I will be near my family and special dear friends.

I can’t afford to own a condo up north, as the prices are much higher than Florida.  A few years ago, I fell in love with a condo in Swampscott near Vinnin Square called Crown Pointe.  I had dreams of living there for years when I first had my condo up for sale about 6 years ago, then the stock market tumbled and people losing their jobs………….the timing was all wrong.

Things just get in the way sometimes but I still have my dreams. 

Bless you!