Thursday, October 15, 2015

Our Forever Friend - Rose (Franciosa) Sisti


As most of you may already know, Rose (Franciosa) Sisti lost her short battle with lung cancer on September 22, 2015. Rose created this Lantern blog and was instrumental in getting the Class of 1962 reconnected. We've enjoyed many lunches and get-togethers with classmates that wouldn't have happened if it wasn't for Rose. Sal Carmosino has agreed to take over this blog and will do his best to continue what Rose started.

Below is the eulogy written by Rose's daughter, Michelle, and her son-in-law, Daniel, after her passing. May our beautiful forever friend, Rose (Franciosa) Sisti rest in peace.

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Celebrating the Life of a Beautiful Rose -

Rose had a huge heart, childlike wonder, a caring spirit, and a deep religious and spiritual core. But don't think that tough persona wouldn't come charging out, especially when it came to protecting her family and friends to which she was fiercely loyal. No matter how many times she may have been hurt, she never stopped believing in love because that is what life is all about. Rose had many different chapters of her life and each one of us played a role in some way.

Although Rose had an extremely tough exterior, that wasn’t who she truly was. She was sensitive and delicate like a rose but she also had some thorns. Rose never hesitated to give you her opinion whether you wanted it or not. She was sharp as a tack and would spend hours researching information for anyone who had a health issue or just a question they needed answers to. She would write letters to complain about bad service but she would also write "kudos" letters for anyone who went out of their way to do a good job. 

Many years ago we spent the weekend with Rose at the Von Trapp Family Lodge. The Lodge was literally halfway to Heaven on the top of some mountain in Stowe, Vermont.  We decided to hike a bit and Rose had to sit down at the first bench we found. “You kids go ahead” she said “I need to make some oxygen choices.” Coming back down the hill we could see Rose sitting peacefully on a bench, looking down at the most unbelievable view of the mountainous countryside we have ever seen. We believe she will now be looking down on an even more beautiful view of all the people she loved celebrating her life.

From times of crisis comes the true test of one's spirit, of one's courage in adversity, of one's strength in their faith. For her entire life and especially towards the end, our Mom wanted to do things on her terms and would never hesitate to battle for something she believed in. She fought her cancer with every fiber of her being because she wasn't ready to go. At one point I think we all believed she could actually pull this off, to get out of the hospital and kick cancer's ass. We believed if anyone could do it, Rose could.  But alas, that wasn't to be. 

The scriptures say that suffering brings us closer to Christ and she exemplified that. The reward for that suffering is no trophy or Super Bowl ring, but a reward she is enjoying now being with her mom, her dad, some of her siblings, her husband, her friends, angels, saints, Jesus and God. What a blessing to know she's now in Heaven to watch over us and be our angel (she always looked so fabulous in white!).

While we are happy that she’s no longer in pain, her absence has left a void in our lives that we will feel for the rest of our lives. To have known her is to have experienced love, laughter, fun, strength, concern, support, positivity and a great sense of belonging that can only happen when you are welcomed into a relationship by someone like Rose. She is a bright light that continues to shine in the lives of all who have been fortunate enough to be a part of her life. 

No matter how far away she lived, she always kept in touch with everyone she loved by writing newsletters and then changed with the times by writing her blogs and e-mails. All the years she was living far away from her family and friends she would say that her computer was her lifeline so it really wasn't much of a surprise when her computer died the day before she did. She obviously wanted to take her lifeline with her.

Her passing has left this world a little less colorful and a lot less interesting. But even in grief, we know we are so lucky to have had this loving woman in our lives and, now, in our hearts forever. On behalf of our family, we want to thank you so much for your prayers and support. Thank you for loving us. Thank you for loving our Mom. She was an incredibly feisty, fierce and fabulous woman and we hope you remember her with a smile on your face and love in your heart.

Blessings to all,
~Michelle and Jimmy

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I'm so glad we had this time together
Just to have a laugh or sing a song
Seems we just get started and before you know it
Comes the time we have to say "So long....."
~Rose (Franciosa) Sisti
1945-2015


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Here are some surprising facts you may not know about lung cancer:

• One in 15 people in the US will be diagnosed with lung cancer in their lifetime.
• More than 221,000 people in the US will be diagnosed with lung cancer this year, with a new diagnosis every 2½ minutes.
• 60-65% of all new lung cancer diagnoses are among people who have never smoked or are former smokers.
• Approximately 10-15% of lung cancer cases are in never smokers.

Some of Rose's family members will be participating in the Breathe Deep Boston walk on October 31, 2015 to raise funds for lung cancer research. To check out the research that supporters like you could fund, visit www.lungevity.org/research.

If you would like to make a donation in Rose's memory, please make your check payable to "LUNGevity Foundation," and include Rose's name in the memo line on the check and mail the check to:

LUNGevity Foundation
Attn: Breathe Deep Boston
228 S. Wabash Avenue, Suite 700
Chicago, IL 60604

LUNGevity Foundation is a 501(c)(3) nonprofit organization. Your contribution is tax-deductible to the full extent of the law.

1 comment:

  1. When someone we love dies we can't help but think about all the time we wasted. Why didn't we see them more often? Why didn't we call more often? Why didn't we cherish every single minute we had with them? Why did we fight about stupid things we can't even remember now? Because that's what families and loved ones do. We argue and fight sometimes but we always get over it because it's family and people we love. It's so true that we don't know and appreciate what we've got 'til it's gone. We always think we have more time. We put off doing or saying things thinking we'll tell them next time but one day comes and there is no next time. We expected to have so many more years with Rose. Jimmy and I had talked about having a big 70th birthday bash for her this past January but because her dance card was already full with family visits, lunches with friends and numerous birthday dinners, we decided we would do something really BIG for her 75th. Never in a million years did we think she wouldn't even get to 71. I truly believe the people we love will always be with us in spirit, it is heartbreaking when you realize you will never be able to hear their voice or see their face again. What will the day be like when we don't get a "Good Morning" e-mail with all sorts of wild animations? Who is going to tell us about all the food recalls or the latest and greatest gadget QVC has on flash sale with 3 easy flex payments? Who is going to alert us that there is a big snowstorm heading for Boston?
    Rose hated getting older. She was so young at heart and such a girly girl who wanted to dazzle everyone. It was so hard for her to slow down when her body couldn't do what she wanted to do. She would rather be out on the dance floor instead of watching her Dancing With the Stars. Rose did NOT want to be an old lady wearing sensible shoes. It broke her heart to give away her 3"+ heels even though she hadn't been able to wear them in many years.
    Rose had such an incredible sense of style and now we have the impossible task of doing something with all her treasured things. It's times like these when it really hits you that all the stuff is just stuff.The things are so ridiculously unimportant. It's the people, the memories, the laughs, the friends and the love that makes our short stay on this planet worth living. The reality is that we all have to go through it eventually. We all have to lose people we love. We all have to learn how to live without them. As sad as we are that Rose is no longer here with us, we know she wouldn't want us to be upset or sad. She would want us to remember the laughs and good times, raise a glass and enjoy the short time we have with the people we love.
    We love you Mommy!
    ~Michelle and Jimmy
    XOX

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